We love Early Intervention!

It was at our four month baby well-visit that our pediatrician diagnosed Brayden with torticollis.  "Torti-whaat?" I said to myself as I gave our doctor a blank stare.  The short definition is that Brayden had a head tilt, caused by the tightness of his sternocleidomastoid mucle (the muscle behind his ear that connected to his sternum).  For us, this was likely an issue that started before birth when he got stuck in a "frank breech" position with his feet on his head while still in my belly.  So the doctor prescribed Physical Therapy and sent us on our way.  While we started our journey at the Children's Institute's PT clinic (also awesome), the twice a week appointments were especially difficult with twins. Packing up an infant, and driving half an hour away, to have a half an hour session, while leaving Julie at home, dealing with his massive reflux and my pumping schedule - urgh... the hecticness of it is making my head spinning just thinking about it!

As Brayden's head shape was also an issue, we were referred to a specialist a Children's Hospital who suggested that we get in touch with Early Intervention as a source for home based PT who were awesome in helping with torticollis issues.  As an offshoot - this specialist also recommended a helmet for Brayden's plagioephaly (wonky shaped head asymmetry) which you can read about here.

So began our experience with Early Intervention in Allegheny County.  This incredible program offers physical, occupational, developmental and speech therapies to qualifying children within Allegheny County usually at no cost to the family. For us, the process included meeting with our service coordinator who met with us, explained the program, and had us complete some paperwork.  Because Brayden already had a diagnosis, he automatically qualified for treatment, but children without this would also complete an evaluation of all sorts of elements (physical, social, and cognitive development) and if their scores fall below certain levels, they are accepted for services.

Brayden was matched up with an awesome therapist who came to our home weekly, and was truly fantastic with our son.  She would stretch his neck, find his tickle spots, do massage, and play games with him.  It was so fun that he rarely complained!  Best of all, no long hauls to the outpatient PT office and expensive co-pays.

As Julie became more mobile, we realized that her crawl was a little "wonky" as well, and she wasn't rolling over normally.  Brayden's PT checked her over and concluded that her tummy muscles were not as strong as we'd hope, and so Julie too was evaluated and qualified for services.

As the babies have grown, their needs have changed.  Now VERY active toddlers, their need for physical therapy has passed and they are strong, flexible and very physically normal.  But we have had some concerns about their speech delays.  At 18 months, they each say only a small handful of words each (5-7).  Although I narrate our every move, Brayden only says Dada, Mama, Nana, uh-oh and yum and Julie's vocabulary consists of the same, plus "hi" and "no" (a recent addition).  Neither use these words to request food, nor can I get them to say "up" or "more" despite my efforts.

So yet again, we are thankful for Allegheny County's awesome Early Intervention program coming to the rescue.  Both babies are working with a developmental therapist who weekly works with them to encourage speech through engaging play and mimicking.

Unfortunately, twin families often find themselves with similar concerns as those we've had.  Smaller spaces as well as more time sitting is a frequent occurrence for twins and multiples.  Twins are also more frequently effected by speech delays although the true reasons for this aren't well established.

If you're a Pittsburgh family looking for resources, the Alliance for Infants and Toddlers is definitely the place to call for support.  Even if you do not have a doctor's recommendation, a parent's concern is enough for them to do an evaluation.  While I'd never encourage mom's to panic, and there is a huge range of "normal" my personal belief has been "if they qualify, they need the services.  If they don't qualify - even better as they'll be fine."  I personally don't feel like there's ever a down side to having a concern evaluated for the simple peace of mind.  If you're out of the Pittsburgh area, I have tried to find a directory for you but don't see one out there unfortunately.  My best advice would be to google "early intervention" and your county as these typically run through the Education Intermediate Units.

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They are who we teach them to be

Dan spent the morning outside, edging the front landscape with a shovel and wheelbarrow.  Nose to the glass of our front window, Brayden was watching his every move.  Since Brayden is typically better listener (for the moment) I asked Dan if he'd mind if Brayden came out to "help" for a bit.  For the next two hours, Brayden was right at his dad's side, quietly watching him work.  I asked Dan how things went when he brought the extra dirt around to the woods behind out house - how he carried Brayden while pushing the wheelbarrow.  He said it was not a problem because Brayden instinctively followed along, knowing right where he was supposed to be.

Later today, I had been napping and Dan and the kids came to wake me up.  Not one to waste an opportunity to connect, Dan laid next to me for moment with his head on my chest.  We're a pretty romantic pair (amazing after twins) and I gently ran my fingers through the back of his hair and ran my hand up and down his back.  Julie popped up on the ottoman next to our bed (their stepping stool) and stood there for a second staring at us.  After taking us in, she smiled and just watched us love one another.  I said to my husband "Just look at her - she's learning how you love someone!"  and that's truly what she was doing.

At 18 months old, I have been told their brains are like little sponges, absorbing every subliminal lesson, unintentional associations and bits of social programming that surround their little lives.  While we think we're teaching body part identification, colors and animals, what they're truly learning is how they will view and navigate this world in which they are a part.

That, truly scares the hell out of me.  No really - it does.  I'm terrified of having these little eyes (and mouths and hearts) watching my every move, and LEARNING FROM WHAT I DO!  Yes, in those sweet moments, Dan and I have a great connection, but what about when I undermine his authority and question his decision - am I teaching them to respect him?  When I get frustrated that I've lost the keys and the sippy cup has spilled and there's no more milk, and someone'e missing a shoe - will they sense and inherit my stresses?  When my dogs are begging for my dinner or sitting on top of my craft supplies and I yell "GIT!!!" - are they learning to be kind and loving to our pets?  While they're not yet too talkative, what about the words I say?  Are they the words I would be proud to hear come out of their little mouths?

Today has been such a deep reminder that these children, my babies, they will grow to be who we teach them be.  And these lessons are rarely intentional, but instead the classroom exists in our own subtle reactions and responses.

I consider my faith.  How are my babies seeing me share my faith with the world?  Are they seeing God's light through me in a way that will someday teach them to seek Him and have a light of their own?

While I wish the answers to all of these things were positive, that they were learning perfectly from what I do, I know that perfect parenting doesn't exist.  We all do things we're not proud to do and "do as I say, not as I do" is a phrase that many families live by.  But I want so much more than that for them.  I want them to value who they are, because I am proud of what they have learned from me.  I want them to find respect me as I have shared values that I would be proud for them to have.

And amazingly, as I am considering how I need to become better - for their sake, I realize how they intrinsically make me a better person for caring.  |

I have mentioned to my mother how someday I want to make sure I take excellent care of her as she ages, because I will hope that my children would do the same for me when it's my turn.  I can only hope that I can impart enough kindness, integrity and patience that they will walk my path behind me.


  

Round Hill Farm: Field Trip Friday

I'm excited to introduce Field Trip Friday - a time to share our experiences at all the places we've visited as a family!

My mind reminisces every so often of childhood memories at Round Hill Park.  With a bag of stale bread in hand, I'd hop out of the car and head straight for the lake where I'd lob hunks of crust at the ducks circling in the water. My grandparents took me most often, and as a former farm boy, my Pap was always glad to see my excitement at the animals there.

Now visiting with my own little ones, I was so excited to feel the familiarity of this special place and thrilled to see some of the new updates to make the park even more fun for kids!

We made our way to Roundhill park last Friday on a gorgeous day with a few moms and kids from our playdate group.  Special thanks to Sara from curouslittlekid,com and her "20 Things to do in Pittsburgh for under $20" post for the recommendation!

We started out at the duck pond where I excitedly got out my bag of semi-fresh "stale" bread thinking that my babes would do just as I had once done and feed the ducks.  This was a bit of a "fail" (as Dan would say) as I watched Brayden, then Juile, stuff their mouths full of their bread without second thought to the ducks.  They did enjoy watching me feed the ducks though and Brayden has even begun giving us an adapted duck "quack" (more of a grunt really.)

After the pond, we visited the farm portion of the park where animals of sizes could be found!  When you first pull in, this is to the right of the entry.  A nice stroll through the buildings allowed us to see chickens, turkeys, sheep and pigs the later my kids just adored.

Although I haven't written much about my passion for photography quite yet (don't worry - it's on its way), I am learning to have an eye for great locations and Round Hill Park is definitely on the top of my list for a great Pittburgh photo session location!  It has stone retaining walls, beautiful white farm fences and even great mildly sloping topography to provide some great backdrops.  Fingers crossed we can make it there this fall to get a little session in with the kids!

After visiting the animals, we got back in the car and headed towards the spray park.  This area is to the left of the main parking lot in front of the entry road.  For us, this was definitely a car ride but you could probably walk it if you were ambitious!

The spray park is provided free from Allegheny County and features numerous water features - fountains, sprays, and a barn that periodically dumps water on those standing beneath it.

The kids had an absolute blast running through the spray and trying to touch all of the streams of water.  Even though there were a few groups there when we attended, I felt like there was plenty of room for all of us.  I'll let the pictures speak for themselves on the fun that Brayden and Julie had there!  

Just a few notes for anyone visiting in the future:

• There were a few park benches around the spray park area, but we took extra towels and a packed lunch which worked out well.  There is also a pavilion and some playground equipment nearby if you are looking for something more substantial.
• Unlike the city Spray Parks (I believe), Round Hill Spray Park does have chlorinated water.  I personally am thrilled about this as I feel like this could be kinda germy if the water wasn't properly cleaned.  Keep in mind I'm relying fully on my nose for this information so your mileage may vary.
• Finally, there are a few port-a-potties and at least one large portable stall designated for changing.  No indoor facilities are there, but this works pretty well. 

So our official review of Round Hill Park?  We loved it and can't wait to go back. :-)

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Special thanks to Katie of Katie Fair Photography for sharing some of her pictures with us for this post!

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A long time ago, before we were married, Dan owned our house as a bachelor.  He chose our appliances with the help of Consumer Report guides, and picked out models that shined, blinked, and had fancy LED screens.  Shortly after I moved in, it seemed our curse began - first the washer, then the dishwasher then issues with the treadmill, the grill, the laptop and the fridge filter.  It became apparent that although Dan's choices were well researched, they did not stand the test of time, and he (unfortunately) did not have a backup plan.  He left the sales associates high and dry with their extended warranties unpurchased.

More recently, we do try to purchase extended warranties but what about the items already in our home?  Our original built in microwave and oven are used so frequently that it's almost inevitable that they'll go sooner or later.  That's where the EquityLock Protector plan would be an absolute life saver!

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Bringing Baby to the Beach

Update: We just posted another great tip sheet - Five Tips for Fabulous Beach Pictures!  Be sure to check it out here!

Our annual trip to Myrtle Beach is still almost two months away, but I visit very regularly in my day dreams. On our first trip with the babies, I felt like there was little advice out there for new moms taking babies to the beach and thought I'd share some things that worked for us!  Check our our top ten list of tips for taking babies to the beach!  Hopefully we made it in time for your summer vacation. :-)

1 - Consider an "Off Season" Vacation  This September will mark our third year of visiting Myrtle Beach during a time when most families have packed up and headed home.  For us, this offers weather that is much more mild (typically low 80s) and fewer beach neighbors crowding your style.  An added benefit is that prices typically dive after Labor Day, allowing us to score a much larger place in a prime location that would be out of our budget in other summer months.

2 - Stay Close to the Water Save yourself the grief and stay "oceanfront" if at all possible.  Babies are so unpredictable and frequent trips back to your home away from home are unavoidable.  We loved being able to see our beach spot from the balcony, and run up (for the millionth time) for the items we inevitably forgot on the first trip down.

3 - Find your Shade  For our first trip with the babies we brought along a dark colored EZup (generic version) which provided excellent shade.  It was large enough for our four adults and two babies and was easy to set up with two people.  I really recommend buying extra long stakes for the sand - in the range of 10-12 inches.  An alternative would be a small "personal tent" for baby but be cautious to make sure your aware of potential risks and recalls for popular brands of such tents.

4 - A Comfy Spot for Baby We brought along a "Neat Sheet" to cover the sand where the babies would relax, and staked it with the stakes that originally came with the EZup.  For anyone who doesn't know, a "Neat Sheet "is also known as a "ground cover" and is basically a tarp with a cloth backing.  They're pretty waterproof, washable and comfortable for lounging around.  We pulled the corners tight for the stakes so they wouldn't bunch, and it provided a great sand-free surface for the babies to play on.

We also had the luxury of owning the Big Kahuna Beach Chairs by Rio that lay all the way flat.  These created mini cots on which our babies napped daily.  I guess the sound of the real ocean was just as soothing as the ocean sounds in their Sleep Sheep!

5 - Bring Everything You Need for the Afternoon  Click Here to see our Beach Baby Checklist of all the things you'll want to have in your Beach Bag!

6 - Use a Spray Bottle for Sandy Binkies Our twins adore their pacifiers - especially while napping oceanfront.  But those binkies (without exception) found their way into a sandy pile and mixed with moisture cling to the plastic.  GROSS!  Our solution was a simple spray bottle of water.  Just a few squirts and all the sand blew away.  Make sure you get one with a little power (even the ones in the travel section of target or walmart will do) and they'll work magic on those sand covered binks!

7 - Corn Starch Keeps you Sand Free Bring along a sprinkle of corn starch (baby powder works also) to keep feet and hands sand free.  By absorbing the skin's moisture, sand will slide right off keeping everybody clean and happy.

8 - Don't forget the Sun Screen While I am not a sunscreen expert, I do make absolutely sure my kids are covered from top to bottom for any exposed skin.  Our regular pick is Coppertone Kids Spray because I feel like it gives us quick, even coverage without having to hold kids down to rub it in.  If you need more information on the importance of Sun Protection, download Coppertone's printable guide here.  And for Moms concerned about chemicals, Safemama offers a great guide there as well!  Remember that just one severe burn increases your little one's risk of cancer later in life - so sunscreen is mission critical!

9 - Bring Extra Diapers Maybe one of my girl friends should have told me - but I was SHOCKED to realize that Swim Diapers were for "poop only."  For a day of lounging beach side, babies are more comfortable in regular diapers.  Otherwise, you'll be surprised when that baby who has yet to touch water for the day leaves a wet imprint on your cover up!  Trust me when I say, save the swim diapers for the pool.

10 - Get in front of the Camera After reading Allison Tate's article last year about the importance of mom's capturing the fun they have with their kids, I was inspired to hand my hubby the camera and let him shoot away as I played with my babies in the surf.  Now I'm not a swimsuit model of any kind, but I never regret having the images to remember how much fun we all had together.  I look back at my own expressions of joy, watching my sweet babies explore one of my favorite places - where the water meets the land.

Looking for another great post about the beach?  Check out our Five Tips for Fabulous Beach Pictures!